Let IT GO
By Dr. Estrelita Bruce, Owner of A NEW ME: Transparently, Abundantly
You’re probably wondering, why this topic? It’s because many of you took the time to complete my A NEW ME short SURVEY when you subscribed and I just want to say thank you! There were a couple of specific topics that had a higher percentage than others. One topic commonly chosen was “I want to learn how to let go of my past,” which received 66.67%. I wasn’t surprised this topic was highly requested because we can all relate to having difficulties letting go of something in our lives. What we fail to let go it affects our present and has the potential to negatively impact our future.
I understand people are at different emotional stages in their lives. While some of you may feel that you’ve let go of quite a few things and you’re in a very good place, there are others who continue to struggle with moving forward. They feel stuck. Over 90% of the people who have reached out to me for counseling or advice feel stuck. They may be physically moving around, going to work, meeting the minimum requirement for relationship connections but inwardly, they feel like their soul is in mud or quicksand.
Outwardly, many of you may appear to have it all together, but the truth is you’re sinking…fast. It’s frustrating to say the least! I know, because I’ve been there (too many times). For that reason, I’m glad many chose this topic so we can dig deeper and discover ways to move forward so we can let IT go.
I want to provide you with 6 ways to challenge you to push towards the process of letting IT go. Are you ready?
1. Identify what IT is.
Want to let it go? First, what is IT? I need you to take out a piece of paper right now and identify what IT is that you’re struggling with letting go. Many times we are stuck with IT because we’re not getting IT out. Recently I reposted a meme from Dr. Caroline Leaf which stated, “Express yourself. Don’t walk around with the burden of unsaid things, unloved talents, and untold stories. Free yourself. Live out loud.” Unsaid things are heavy burdens and will always create untold stories. Your IT is your story, but first identify IT. Is IT a person? Could IT be negative emotions such as guilt, shame, anger, unfulfilled expectations, shattered dreams, an unfilled purpose or life? First, we must learn to identify the IT so we can begin the process of freedom. After we take this first step, this will help us to move to the next step.
2. Be willing to face IT.